{"id":1044,"date":"2020-01-14T06:00:58","date_gmt":"2020-01-14T11:00:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/azadkinsiii.com\/blog\/?p=1044"},"modified":"2021-10-18T13:17:46","modified_gmt":"2021-10-18T17:17:46","slug":"12-writing-your-own-memoir-its-really-easy-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/azadkinsiii.com\/blog\/12-writing-your-own-memoir-its-really-easy-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"#12 – Writing Your Own Memoir – Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

It’s Really Easy, and… What a Legacy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trivia Questions (Answers @ end)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Who said, \u201cYou can always edit a bad page. You can\u2019t edit a blank page.\u201d<\/em>?<\/li>
  2. In what late 60s TV show did we hear, \u201cBook \u2018em, Danno<\/em>.\u201d?<\/li>
  3. Recognize these song lyrics? Who sang them?
    Get your motor runnin’<\/em>
    Head out on the highway<\/em>
    Lookin’ for adventure<\/em>
    And whatever comes our way<\/em><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n
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    Blog #12 (Audio)<\/div><\/div>
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    Listen to the audio of this blog, read by Andy Adkins. Click the \u201cAudio<\/strong><\/em>\u201d button below.<\/p>\n<\/div>

    Published: <\/span>October 18, 2021<\/span><\/div>
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    Note: This is the first of a three-part series article. Next week, Research: After 30+ years, I’m back on the flight deck.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Several years ago, I wrote and self-published a book about my 4 years in the Navy. It initially started out as a simple memoir. But over time, it morphed into a full-size book. I did not write the book to make money. My intention was to preserve.<\/em> My sole purpose was to share my Navy experience with family, friends, and shipmates. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Yes, it is on Amazon. No, I haven’t sold a lot of copies. It\u2019s a friggin’ memoir<\/em>, not a romance novel. I wanted to tell it like it was (for me), \u201csprinkle\u201d in a few facts and Navy-specific details, and elaborate on a few of my own experiences. There are probably a few spelling and grammar errors (I did not use a professional editor), but I’m okay with that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    When I received the first hard copy “proof” in the mail, I was impressed at just how easy it was. I will tell you this, though. It certainly helped me along in my current writing \u201cjourney.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It’s a “process,” a true labor of love<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

    This blog article is NOT<\/em><\/strong> about my <\/em>book; it\u2019s about the process <\/em>of writing it\u2014something you <\/em>may want to consider. Think about it\u2026 a legacy for your family, your kids, and your grand kids. And while you read through this blog, you may also realize you can help write your father’s, mother’s or grandparent’s memoir. It doesn’t have to be all about you!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    My DD-214; Time in Service
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    In 1973, I signed up for a four-year stint with the Navy. But, because I went in on a Monday and got out on a Friday, I almost<\/em> made the complete four years. The title of my <\/em>book is, \u201cThree Years, Eleven Months, 29 Days\u2014But Who\u2019s Counting<\/a><\/em><\/strong>.\u201d I just couldn\u2019t resist that particular title. And if you question my “exact” time in service, I’ve provided a snippet of my DD-214 discharge papers as proof. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Writing my memoir wasn\u2019t difficult at all. Yes, it took some time and I drifted in and out of writing. All in all, it probably took me about a year to write, from the initial outline to the first proof copy. But, it was certainly worthwhile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    You don\u2019t have to have a literary agent or a publisher to write & publish your memoir. I know a lot of men & women, WWII, Vietnam-era, and Global War on Terror veterans, who wrote their memoir either using paper and pen or a computer and only had a few copies printed for their families and friends. For each, it was a most fulfilling experience and I don’t know any that regretted writing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    There are methods, however, to self-publish, and I\u2019ll share some of those with you later in Part 3. I self-published my book using Amazon\u2019s CreateSpace<\/strong> (now known as Kindle Direct Publishing<\/a><\/strong>), but there are other self-publishing services. It only cost a few bucks–for the proof copies and for extra copies I ordered for family and friends. More about that later. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The “Why<\/em>” of writing your memoir<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

    Serving in the United States Navy<\/strong> was one of the most honorable and memorable periods in my life. I find that as I get older, I cherish those memories even more. I am proud to be a veteran. I also have a much higher respect for our men and women in uniform who currently serve than I did back in my day. I don’t know if that’s age or wisdom, but at this point, it really doesn’t matter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I realize others may not<\/em> feel the same way about their service, and that\u2019s okay. Of course, there were times when I\u2019d complain. But for me, I had many more good times than bad, and that\u2019s what I always try to focus on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    A lot of what I learned in the Navy continues with me today, including some of the military lingo<\/a>. I’m sure there are other veterans who also continue to use some of those “choice” terms and language. Face it, it’s a culture and tradition we want to continue. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I was discharged in 1977. But, I didn\u2019t write this book until 2014 though I had thought about writing it for years. But, you know… life got in the way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    When I did start to actually write it, I was still working full-time. But, I managed to find the time (nights and weekends) to crank it out. Our kids had grown, moved out, and finished college, so I had a little more “Andy time.” And, the process of \u201cjournaling\u201d my service (i.e., writing my book), both good and bad, was for me\u2026 both enlightening and<\/em> memorable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I know some people, including my own father, who felt \u201cclosure\u201d after completing their book. I\u2019m not sure I felt \u201cclosure\u201d–I wasn’t looking for it. Even though the Vietnam War was winding down when I served, I wasn\u2019t in a war, like my dad. But, I know other veteran authors who were and for them, writing their memoir did<\/em> bring closure to a chapter in their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Writing <\/strong>Your<\/em><\/strong> Memoir<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

    I think most memoirs are a \u201cfrom here to there\u201d type of book–events that happen in chronological order. That\u2019s how I wanted to write mine, plain and simple, from start to finish. It also provided me with a way to “relive” my Navy days. That was fun!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    I wanted to write about Boot Camp, \u201cA\u201d school, and my two duty stations, NAS Agana, Guam<\/strong> and USS Kitty Hawk<\/em><\/strong>. And of course, I wanted to write about the Westpac \u201975<\/strong> cruise. Those topics became my \u201csections.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It\u2019s hard to explain to someone what it\u2019s like to be aboard a Navy ship during a 6- to 8-month cruise. In my case, I worked on the flight deck of an aircraft carrier, USS Kitty Hawk<\/em>. But, it was important to me to describe the comradery and friendships that develop when you’re together for that period of time. In my case, it was also the most fun part to reminisce and write about. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I also wanted to include enough details so that someone who had not<\/em> been in the Navy could understand the culture, as well as appreciate what we did on a day-to-day basis. Most of this I knew from experience, but in some cases, I needed to do additional research. Lo and behold, Dr. Google and Mr. Internet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Because I had written a military book several years earlier\u2014about my father\u2019s World War II experience in Europe\u2014I had an idea of how to tell the story and where to find research materials. For that book, I had also worked with both an editor and a publisher. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But, back then (2005), the self-publishing industry was just ramping up and still had a ways to go. For my WWII book<\/strong><\/a>, I found a traditional publisher, Casemate Publishers<\/a><\/strong>, who is still going strong. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    For my Navy book, I knew<\/em> I would self-publish\u2014a totally different world. When the time came in 2014, most of the self-publishing industry quirks had been worked out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Research \u2013 My Old Letters<\/a><\/strong> and My Photo Albums<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

    A lot of my \u201cresearch\u201d came from my old photo albums and the letters I had written home\u2014my mother kept all my letters. Those were treasures and provided me with not only the timing of certain events, but also how my attitude changed as I \u201cmatured\u201d into an experienced and seasoned sailor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Boy, some of those letters I wrote back then really told it like it was. But, I digress\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I know a lot of veterans who have the letters they wrote home to their parents, their wives, their children, and other family members. That\u2019s a great place to start. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Outlining Your Memoir<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

    The first thing I did was to outline my time in the service. As I mentioned above, my main “sections” were:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1. Joining the Navy (the \u201cdecision” to join and the Induction Center \u201cexperience\u201d).<\/li>
    2. Boot Camp<\/a> (from check-in through graduation).<\/li>
    3. \u201cA\u201d School (Aviation Boatswain\u2019s Mate\u2013Handler; Lakehurst, NJ).<\/li>
    4. NAS Agana, Guam; both on-duty activities as well as off-duty. <\/li>
    5. USS Kitty Hawk<\/a>. I thought it would be useful to not only describe what I did on the ship, but also provide a \u201ctour\u201d of the ship and the flight deck and describe flight operations in detail.<\/li>
    6. Westpac ’75 cruise; what we did during the cruise as well as the ports we visited. Well, at least what I remembered, if you know what I mean.<\/li>
    7. Discharge.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n
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      Sample Table of Contents<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

      That was pretty much it. Once I had this initial outline, I just started writing, knowing that I would need to \u201cfine-tune\u201d the grammar & spelling at a later time. Several other veterans read my early drafts and provided valuable insights and corrections. My wife and my sister helped me with the final editing. I’ve included my Table of Contents<\/em> as a guide that may help. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      The secret? Just start writing<\/em><\/strong> and know that you\u2019re not going to finish this overnight, over a weekend, or within a month. It depends on whether you want to write about your complete Navy experience from start to finish, or if you want to only write about a few things: your choice. Both will be treasures for your family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      I didn’t write from beginning to end. I decided to first focus on certain times or stories, then expanded from there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Warning: Navy \u201cLanguage\u201d ahead<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

      As I began to write, I found my \u201cvoice,\u201d so to speak. You may not know what that means now, but you will once you start writing. For me, that simply meant that I wanted to not only tell it like it was, but to insert certain military and Navy terms<\/a> along the way, with explanation and definition. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      After a while, I realized that I ought to put a disclaimer on the book. So, for a little extra humor, I added in the tagline: \u201cWarning: this book contains three languages: English, Navy, and Military. Some readers may find two of the languages offensive<\/em>.\u201d I even included a glossary of terms, something I thought would be helpful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Writing Prompts<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

      I know several of you have probably thought <\/em>about writing… something<\/em>… about your time in the service, or perhaps your parents or your grandparents. But, in the same vein, you may also be asking yourself, “How do I begin?” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Here are a few “writing prompts” that may help you get the ball rolling. Simply take one and start writing–plain and simple. And, what’s best? You’ll not only surprise yourself at what you write, but you may also be well on your way to writing your own memoir<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      While these writing prompts are geared toward the military, you should be able to adapt them to almost any style memoir. I’ll provide three prompts for each of the blogs in this 3-part series:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      1. I joined the Navy (Army, Marines, Air Force, or Coast Guard) because (why<\/em>).<\/li>
      2. I went to Boot Camp (where<\/em>). The thing I remember most about Boot Camp was (what<\/em>).<\/li>
      3. When I arrived at my first duty station, I thought to myself (what<\/em>).<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        Next week<\/strong>, I\u2019ll detail some of my <\/strong>additional \u201chands-on\u201d research. I asked the Navy if I could visit and observe Boot Camp; I asked if I could spend time on an active carrier during flight ops. Did they allow me to do those things? Yes, they did! And more\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Until we meet again,<\/em>
        Andy<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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        Andy Adkins is a US Navy veteran (\u201973-77) and the author of several books. His newest novel, NEVER FORGET, is the story of A Vietnam Veteran\u2019s Journey for Redemption & Forgiveness. NEVER FORGET is FREE (eBook, PDF) for all veterans. Download your FREE<\/strong> copy HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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